Please read this, as it is so important to me on this Mindful Monday and this week I want you to be mindful about what you say to others. What prompted this to come into my mind this week, as it often does, was a comment made by a doctor. What does this doctor say in front of an absolutely beautiful child with an incredible personality and a bright future? She asks if this child wants reconstruction for her congenital abnormality (even though this doctor wouldn't have anything to do with reconstruction) as if the only option is to try to look like the norm. When reconstruction was denied as an option being considered right now, because the child is perfectly happy with how she was born, the doctor continued to say well at least she can cover it up with her hair. In front of the child and the mother who clearly didn't think this way.
Now, we need to be mindful with what we say to other people for multiple reasons. Obviously, one is how it will affect the person or people listening. Who is one to put negative and harmful pressure on a person, when the person is perfectly happy? Why introduce to a person that they may be viewed as something "wrong," when that person has nothing wrong with them. And even if the person views themselves as imperfect or ashamed, why feed into that behavior? Unless a person is actually asking for help or change, why offer it when it won't offer any good? How we say something, and what we say matters. Think before we speak. Be mindful when we speak.
Now alternatively, how does being mindful about what you say to others affect yourself? Well, voicing thoughts like this are reinforcing negative views you, yourself, obtain. This is when practicing mindful thinking about how you view others and their differences comes into play. Whether it is color of their skin, a congenital abnormality, the way they speak, the way they look, how much they weigh, how they dress, how they wear their hair, how they present themselves, why have a negative response in your thoughts or in your expression to them at all? We are all different, period. No one is completely alike and it is what makes the world so beautiful. There is no norm that needs to be held to. Our beauty, our creativity, our self expression comes from all of these differences.
Take time to observe your thoughts. Your reactions to others. What you say. Make it a priority this week. Don't judge yourself harshly if you notice that you fall into some negative thinking or reactions to others, but just pause and think how you can change your worldview, change your reactions, change your response. Once we realize we can have some control over our thought patterns to view others as beautiful and with love, and some control over our reactions to not produce harm, we will feel more positivity and love.
yoga, food, family, and travel. these are what drive my life! as a stay at home mom of 2 little girls with an active yoga practice. i longed to find the perfect yoga class for my own children. i felt a calling to a kids yoga teacher training in early November, 2017 and answered the call. in 2018, i felt called towards a greater mission. teaching teens & adults. today, i am living my dream.